"All questions are female. All answers are male. If you're wondering why this might be the case, you are thinking with your feminine sensibilities. If you're considering why this is the case, you are thinking with your masculine senses. Questions are creative, intimidating, and periodically irritating. We may think them docile, we may try to ignore or suppress them, but their destabilizing power persists, pushing us towards our proper destiny. Answers are protective, giving us some ground, however shaky, on which to stand. Answers are cool, logical, but they can also become stubborn know-it-alls, resisting the emergence of new questions and answers and deteriorating into conservative old farts. Truth is a precarious balance between poignancy and peace. Truth lies within the perpetual prance of Yin and Yang." – Tony Vigorito, Just a Couple of Days
It's not always the wrong answer, but the wrong question.
Certain sects of religions, including the one I was raised in, teach you to be afraid of asking questions. They teach you that questioning the origins of things is a lack of faith. Which is completely ludicrous. An inquiring mind should be applauded. I was once asked, "If you don't go to church, what do you believe? Why are you here?" My response was, "Why do I have to believe anything? Maybe my purpose is my existence." Some people don't even know what they actually believe because they never asked questions. Which is a shame because humans are notorious for fucking things up. After centuries of their hands dabbling into interpreting and re-interpreting what they interpreted, edits and re-writes of certain 'sacred' texts… I think it's moronic not to question…I also believe it's okay to not have all the answers. Some things are meant to be wondered about, researched, theorized…Questions really CAN be irritating, especially when the answer to one question only leads to another question.
Why are we afraid to question?
I've always wondered if people ask themselves the right questions…the internal questions that serve as filters for our minds and mouths. The ones that make us think before we speak or DO. Because maybe asking ourselves the right questions will lead to truths about ourselves we really don't want to be made aware of. Certain truths about ourselves can always be changed…most adjectives we use to describe ourselves and others could change at anytime, if we ask the right questions. But most people don't because they are too lazy to do anything about changing or are too weak to face the truth.
Sometimes, we take a different wrong turn: asking questions of self that we need to ask of someone else. When I dread hearing an answer that I have no control over, I tend to overanalyze. Why did she say this? Why did he do that? When the real answer doesn't exist in me, but in someone else. I know this is mostly because of fear of a response I don't want to deal with or an answer I may not want hear, but some questions are necessary. It's better to be afraid than to regret not hearing something you may have learned from.
If you don't ask the right question, you may never get the right answer.
